ponderingsat80’s posterous

They’re not gone - the demons, I mean – they’re hiding, waiting to pounce when my guard is down - when I least expect them.  This morning as I cleaned out a couple of drawers, throwing out stuff or organizing it to take to the city, they appeared in full force and I found myself almost overwhelmed.  Memories came flooding back: An old spoon, a plate or a glass . . . each with a memory of its own; boxes of old photographs – mostly of the children and grandchildren taken in the country and carted here when I moved. I have no place to put them in the city and must now dispose of them or at least sort them out and take as few as possible. When my demons attacked, I fought the urge to stop what I was doing and simply sit down and weep.  

 I understand now why I am having such a difficult time,  it’s because this is the end of living in the country – there won’t be, as when I sold my house on the country road, the excitement of looking for another place where I could live near nature and feel secure.  There won’t be another little condo like this one where I have been happy for so many years.  That part of my life is over.  I will accept this - I will - but this is the end of something I loved and cherished, and I am grieving.    

 It’s important that I keep busy; soon I will put up decorations for Christmas to make the Holiday Season  cheerful and merry.  And it will be, if I remain positive and see the good side of getting down to one home.  We had a goal:  We wanted to get down to one car, and we’ve done that; we wanted to get down to one home and we’re almost there.  If I can concentrate on that and feel proud of our accomplishments, the sadness will gradually begin to fade and I will settle down.  I must not ignore the pain I’m feeling - it is real and it hurts.  I must acknowledge that this has been like a death and I am mourning.  But as I said in an earlier entry, I am moving on and I will settle down;  and one day soon I will see all of this as good.  But first,  I must rid myself of these demons – once and for all.

After spending a week in the city I am back in my little condo – my refuge - in the country.  As I unpacked (yes, unpacked) my bags yesterday, I began to wonder where I would find the courage to let this place go?  How can I leave this lovely little home that has sheltered and offered me frequent breaks from the life I share with my husband in the city?

This is negative thinking, and I must stop before it pulls me down. It is time to let it go – I know this in my head, but in my heart . . . oh, it is such different story.  I have had 12 lovely years here; I have had alone time; and time to go on walks, to listen to music, to read and to write . . .  I have been blesssed. 

 I managed to keep these negative thoughts at bay until 4 o’clock this morning when the demons attacked with a vengeance . . .  all my fears and anxieties about living full-time in the city returned, and the only recourse I had was to get up and face them head on.  

 I made myself a cup of tea and sat in my recliner where I fought the urge to give in to this painful and destructive negativity.  What must I do to rid myself of these dreadful feelings?  How do I remain positive? I sat struggling with these thoughts for some time . . . Then I began to take stock of what made this place a warm and cozy home.  What made it so inviting?   How can I bring some of this warmth and beauty to the city?   

I then knew what I would do:  I will replace some of the furniture in the city with furniture from here - the color and fabric will make the the place brighter and feel warmer; and when I hang my lovely paintings - it will definitely look less formal. Yes!  I will do that!  I will, but I must first decide quickly what furniture to take - already people are expressing interest in certain items.  I sat sipping my tea as these positive ideas replaced the negative ones and I felt myself begin to relax - I had overcome my demons - for now.  Tomorrow I will take measurements and try to imagine where to put things and  how they might look?   Tomorrow I . . . I sat back on the recliner and slowly, without realizing it, drifted off.  When I opened my eyes, it was daylight and the demons had vanished.         

 After breakfast, I took out the tape measure to begin my task.

 But what was I thinking? It  is a gorgeous day. Why am I dwelling on furniture and decor when the sun and mild weather beckon and invite me to do what I enjoy doing the most --  go on a walk!

 How easy it would have been to have let myself sink into negativity; how dreadful to give in to those feelings . . .  I am truly  grateful that next year I shall not have to worry about the weather or the road conditions for driving, and there will be no fixing or having to repair things - I will no longer have that responsibility – not here, at least.  It is a relief to know that I will be living in a lovely warm and attractive condo in which I will be comfortable and where I will accept, and at last begin to realize, I am finally settled.

November was an unpleasant month when I lived alone in the country. The weather strangely enough did not bother me; I, in fact, enjoyed the mood. I liked the shorter days, the darkness and the rain . . .  I liked the smell of dead leaves and water soaked earth – I liked the cosiness I felt when I lit a fire in the fireplace and curled up with music and a book; or baked cookies and made applesauce that added to the settling-in feeling.  And it was exciting when the first snowfall of the season arrived – everything looked bright and fresh as the snow stuck to the trees and covered the ground with a light dusting.  I liked it because I knew it would not stay - the ground was not yet frozen and it would quickly melt.  I also loved that the trees were bare and I could look deep into the woods and see the neighbour’s house up the road. But as much as all this pleased  me, I chose to pack up and leave.  Why?  Because November was also hunting season, and the woods behind my house were tremendously inviting to hunters. I worried I might be easy prey for reckless or inebriated men armed with rifles or bow and arrow.    I felt terribly vulnerable as a woman living alone, so I packed my things, grabbed my little dog and fled to the city.

 I was not alone to feel this way - people around me were wary at that time of year; it was not uncommon to hear of a stray bullet coming through a window or hitting someone's car!  Hunters lurking in the woods made me uneasy about driving on country roads and I avoided that as much as possible.

 Twice!  I got broken into during the fall season.  The first time happened when I left for only a short trip to the city: I came back to find the door kicked in and everything turned upside down; clothing and items from bureau drawers were scattered  everywhere; mattresses were turned over and lay half off the beds, and contents from my kitchen cupboards and drawers were spread all over the place.  But other than a small Dictaphone belonging to my husband, nothing was taken.   There was not much for them to take – the television and radio dated back to the beginning of time, and in the drawers were mainly baby clothes belonging to my little granddaughter who had stayed with me for a few days. It was scary, and I am amazed I was able to live there alone after that.

 The second time I was broken-into was much worse:  The house had just been renovated:  New doors and windows, new bathroom . . .  fresh paint throughout the house.  It was November and hunters again were on the roads and I once again made my escape to the city.  A few days later I received a phone call from the neighbour to whom I entrusted a key and who checked my house while I was away. “You’ve been broken into!” He yelled into the phone, as though he needed somehow to impress me.  He was terribly agitated and although I was upset, I kept my calm and asked if he would go back to the house and call me on my cordless phone so that I could walk him through the house and he could tell me what was missing.  It was a much bigger haul this time – they took all of my electronic equipment (except the old television that had been passed on to us from an elderly uncle).  In fact, the caretaker had to use my regular phone – the cordless one was gone!    

 I cannot believe I had the courage to drive out and sleep there that night.  But I did.  And the next day – before calling my insurance agent – I placed a call to an alarm company, and within a week, an alarm system complete with panic button next to my bed, was installed.

 An alarm system in the country! where living near nature should have meant peace and quiet and joy . . . An alarm system that scared me more than it helped – I kept worrying I might set it off by accident which happened on more than one occasion and the police came for nothing.   I knew that if there were too many false alarms I could be fined – or worse – they would not come at all!

 The robbers had taken more than my meagre possessions - they had ruined my quiet life and taken away my peace and feeling of security.   Shortly after the second break-in I put my house up for sale.

 It is  now the month of November, and I write in the security of my city condo; there is an alarm system to alert in case of fire or a break-in, and a panic button to summon help in an emergency.  This system is not only necessary, it is reassuring -  especially for older people living alone.  I gaze out my kitchen window and see bushes and trees nearly bare of their leaves and I see an empty swimming pool that belongs to the Sporting Club next door; yet, in spite of the comfort and security offered to me here, I still miss the melancholy feeling I experienced when living in the country, and the cosiness of an open fire . . . the smell of applesauce now simmering on the stove, permeates my kitchen and fills me with nostalgia for that part of Novembers that I loved and remember so well.

Seems I will be unpacking my bags after all (c.f. earlier entry) – I sold my condo this week.  A lovely couple came to visit, fell in love with it and made me an offer I could not refuse.  The wonderful thing is I do not have to leave until June!

 I am actually in the state of shock – I did not expect this – it had been a slow market, and this is a big surprise.

 I must not dwell on what I am giving up but look forward to what is ahead. The city is not where I preferred to live but there is positive in everything, and yesterday on my walk, when I began to feel heavy-hearted because I would  be leaving this lovely haven, I decided to dwell on the positive aspects of living there:  My doctors are just across the street, as is the pharmacy. And there is a lovely little cafeteria – not only for lunch but where I can pick up takeout food.  There is a small shopping mall within walking distance – 2 minutes by car if necessary; and several lovely parks where I can walk my little dog or sit on a bench and relax.   It is not the quiet of the country, true, but it offers other things: Theatre, concerts and nice restaurants for when we feel like eating out.  I will adjust, I always have -  everything happens for a reason.  It is actually kind of exciting to wonder what will happen next in my life and what new adventures await me?

 I have much to do before the move: Furniture to sell, clothes to give away and a complete cleaning and emptying of the condo.  The children will visit and take what they need – or like - but before that, we will spend the Holidays here and enjoy our last Christmas in my little condo in the country.  I will then stay and begin the work I am so familiar with – the pattern I have lived all my married life -  I will be packing and selling, giving away, and getting ready to move . . . the beat goes on.  And in the spring, I will, like an old pro, close the door and not look back.

 I am happy and sad this morning – the time has come for another change – another move, but I have had 12 wonderful years here and for that I am grateful.   I shall miss a lot of things, yes, but I will also remember with joy the happy moments shared here with family and friends.  There is a time for everything and the time had come for us to get down to one home.  I cannot imagine my life without packing and unpacking and living out of a suitcase but I am confident there will be different, but many happy days ahead, as I begin full time living in the city.  I am moving on but not checking out – not yet.  I have a lot of living to do and a lot of stories to write.  I’m just moving on.  

 Why is everyone driving so fast – so recklessly – aren’t they aware it’s windy?     What is wrong with everybody? This is dangerous.  Be careful!   I am upset and wonder if they see me mouthing “idiots!” as they pass me on the bridge?

 I hold the steering wheel tight as I feel the car pulling to one side.   “What a strong wind!”  I mutter to myself and to my dog sleeping in her carrier beside me.

 “I hit heavy wind as I drove out here.” I tell a neighbour as I park my car in the garage. “Lucky you have a small car and it’s close to the ground.” She remarks.   I agree and give it no further thought.

 But . . .   while driving back to the city I feel the same pull - the same wind.   Then it happens . . . the car shifts to the side and I suddenly hear thud, thud, and thud.     I have a flat tire! 

 Okay . . . now is the time to use my cell phone. “Stay calm.” I tell myself as I dial CAA.  Luckily the battery is not dead and my payments are up to date.

 I am told to put my hazard lights on and to stay in the car; that someone will call me for particulars. They do. They are adamant I not get out of the car.

 I eventually see a truck pull up behind me; ignoring the instructions I climb out onto the busy highway.  A guy gets out and checks the back of his truck.  “Are you from CAA?”  I ask.  “No.”  He answers without  showing me any kind of concern.  “I have a flat tire.”  I shout, over the roar of heavy traffic whizzing by at way above the speed limit, I am sure.  He continues to ignore me. Two women sitting in the cab of the truck yell out for him to lend me his cell phone. “It’s okay.” I answer.  “I have one.  Thank you.”    

 I get back in my car and wait.  I turn on the radio to distract myself.  My dog sleeps.  At least there is that; it would be awful if she too were nervous.   A car – a Camry I think, passes and stops a short distance away; two well dressed men, one looks to be in his fifties, the other younger, get out of the car.  They walk towards me, and in a foreign accent, offer to change the tire.  By then, however, I have become paranoid and have decided to follow instructions; I lower the window a couple of inches and indicate I have a cell phone and have called for help.

 I feel vulnerable – I am scared.  Why? What on earth would they want with an old lady and a dog?  They smile graciously and I smile back but remain locked in the protection of my vehicle.

 They take off and I am somewhat relieved. But I am also alone on a very busy highway and I continue to wonder what will happen. It has begun to snow.  Oh, no!  That’s all I need . . .  .

  An hour later (feels like a day) a tow truck arrives; a young man jumps out and tells me to move the car further onto the shoulder.  I am convinced I will go into the ditch, but he is right, there is plenty of space.  I get out to empty the stuff from the trunk of my car that has garment bags and suitcase and bags of food..... (I do not travel lightly --- remember?)  The young man reaches in for the spare tire – the spare  . . . is nothing but a tiny little wheel meant for a kid’s tricycle!  He takes it out and orders me to get in the car and stay there!   I am quiet and subdued as I climb back in the car; I watch him as he quickly switches the flat tired wheel for the tiny little ‘tricycle’ wheel.  He is right about the danger- traffic whizzes by at an incredible speed - nothing but a whirr – a buzz - one car or truck after another.  I am struggling with the idea that no one, except the well- dressed gentlemen, had stopped to offer help.  Were they truly good Samaritans and did I remember to thank them I wonder? . . .

 The young man finishes his job, puts my luggage back in the car and hands me a paper to sign; he then tells me to keep my hazard lights on and to drive no faster than 80 kilometres an hour. He is good at what he does and I am very impressed. He leaves and I feel alone and vulnerable.  I weave my way back onto the highway, lights flashing, the car feeling off-balance because of the tiny wheel, and drive ever so slowly towards the city.

 My kids have scolded me for not checking my tires:  “Before you leave the house and especially before you head out of the city, mother!”   They scold.  They are right - I should have suspected a problem when I crossed the bridge?  Why did I think it was only the wind?!    I learned my lesson well.  So well, in fact, I have driven the gas station attendant crazy asking him to check my tires every time I stop for gas.  “You can tell.” He says.  “Just by looking at your tires, you can tell they don’t need air.”   “I know.  I know.” I reply.  “But did I mention I had a flat tire while on the autoroute alone with my little dog and it began to snow?.  . .”  He gives me a good natured smile and walks away shaking his head - he has heard my story before  . . .  over and over again.    

 After developing hearing loss, what’s next? -  Cataracts.  At my annual eye examination last year the ophthalmologist told me I had the beginning of a cataract in each eye.  “Nothing to be concerned about”, she added “cataracts, like grey hair, happens to everybody as they get older.”   Oh, happy thought.  

 While walking towards the lobby of our condo building one day, I noticed 3 elderly people standing around talking – none of them wore glasses, while I trotted along wearing bifocals. How can this be, I wondered?  They’re older than me . . . . Then I remembered . . .  all had had cataracts removed and now have 20/20 vision.   Except for reading, these people no longer need glasses.  Does this mean we should all aspire to cataracts in order to have perfect vision! 

 I began wearing bifocals ten years ago when carting two pairs of glasses became a nuisance. I needed a pair for reading and another for distance.  Switching back and forth eventually seemed silly.  It was vanity, of course - I did not want to wear glasses at all!   

 A friend of mine has macular degenerative disease and is completely blind in one eye.   She’s an artist – she paints.  Or rather, she painted.  What a huge disappointment this has been for her – painting was her life.  She is the one I mentioned in an earlier entry that bought a house and is now having it renovated; she plans to buy a dog when it's finished.    Bravo for her - she’s hanging in there – she’s an admirable and beautiful woman of nearly 80.   I’d be lamenting my fate and complaining to anyone who’d listen.

 My dog, Mimi had a cataract and could not see out one eye.  She adapted to this situation beautifully and it was amazing to see how well she got around.   

 So . . .  this is old age – the golden years - more aptly named, ‘tarnished brass’ by a friend.  This is when the body begins to fall apart like an old car, and each year demands more maintenance.  What next, I wonder? . . .  I will visit my ophthalmologist next month to find out if the cataracts have developed further? And if I need surgery to have them removed?  What next, indeed.  But wait a minute  . . . this could mean I won’t need glasses except for reading.  There’s good news in old age after all.  Oh, such vanity ---  Omnia Vanitas   All is vanity.  Even at 80!  

Why is being with someone who is hard of hearing so funny at times?

 My sister suffered hearing loss, and when she would visit it was all we could do to hold ourselves together when she misunderstood a word and repeated a similar sounding one that had absolutely no connection to what we were saying. “How about some tea?”  We’d ask.  “It’s much better, thank you.”  She thought we'd asked about her knee. We’d have to escape to the kitchen so that she’d not see us crack up.

 And one time while chatting with and elderly couple in the lobby of our condo building - he being hard of hearing  and with two obvious hearing aids cocked his head and asked, “What was that you said?” And his sweet but somewhat impatient wife dropped her arms, stamped her foot, and shouted what I had said into his hearing aid.  I had to turn around and fake a cough to cover a laugh! 

 My brother called one day and within minutes of our conversation I realized he could not understand a word I was saying - he answered yes or no when I knew he thought the opposite – he simply could not hear me! That was not funny.  But being with a person who is hard of hearing sometimes triggers in me almost uncontrollable laughter.  Why is that?

 And . . . guess what? -  I am the one amusing people now.  I am the one who has hearing loss – in both ears!  I must now use a tiny but very expensive hearing device in each ear.   They are inconspicuous, and I am grateful for that, but should I forget to put them in, and even when I do, people often have to repeat things, which is very frustrating for everybody.   Eating in restaurants is another challenge for people with hearing aids - not only do we hear ourselves chew, we hear the neighbour!  And more upsetting is trying to maintain a conversation with the person you are with – you hear mainly the people at the next table! The clatter of dishes, not to mention the music, makes it almost impossible; one must sit facing the other person in order to read their lips.

 When I first purchased my hearing aids, I made the mistake of leaving them on my night table when I went to the kitchen for a glass of milk.  I never imagined my little dog, sleeping on my bed, might find the shiny little devices interesting; I returned just in time to find her chewing one of them to bits!  Luckily they were insured and I was completely reimbursed, but when the insurance agent asked, “You lost it, really? - Lots of people report their dogs eat them.” I suppose I was technically correct in using the word ‘lost’ but felt myself blushing - he knew . . .    It’s not uncommon for dogs to chew remote controls as well as hearing aids . . . shame on me for lying.

 But not shame on me for laughing when a person with a hearing problem misunderstands a word – it IS funny. And now that I have joined the ranks of those with hearing disabilities, I know what’s going on when people retreat to the other room or hide their faces when I misunderstand a word – it is not only funny, it can sometimes be hilarious!

 I am not meant to unpack my bags – not yet it seems.  For years I have lived between city and country . . . and after selling my house, I pined for the country and bought a condo in a small town where it would be more secure for me to live part-time alone.  I now, however, lack the energy to go between two places and wonder if it may be time to sell my condo.  Unfortunately, the market is slow; people are looking at houses only – if at all.   So . . . perhaps it is not time   to let go - perhaps it is not yet meant to happen.

 When I began to travel between city and country, I carted almost all my wardrobe in garment bags, and practically lived out of a suitcase that was never completely unpacked. (I know what my eulogy will be:  Mom and her garment bags and an unpacked suitcase  . . . they will chuckle, I hope, for it is really funny when you think about it.)

 All of this feels terribly frivolous in the light of the last few days: There is sadness and grieving in our family:  My sister-in-law who had given fierce battle to ovarian cancer, passed away yesterday, and my son-in-law’s mother died last week.   Both were my age.  My daughter-in-law’s father, who has been ill for months, lingers in God’s waiting room.  I do feel awfully foolish to be wondering about where to live and what clothes to cart with me . . .    

 Yet . . . this is my journey.  They have finished theirs, and no doubt have begun another adventure.   My son called to say his neighbour asked him to help save a newborn kitten that had been abandoned by its mother on her doorstep along with 3 others that have died. He and his little daughter took the kitten home and have been feeding it with an eye dropper round the clock.  Already this tiny little creature has perked up and is showing signs of surviving.   My son held Toby (its name) to the phone so I could hear him cry, and oh, how sweet . . .  It was the sound of hope - a desire for life- just what I needed to hear today.   

 I agree with the Dalai Lama, I do not believe we die.  The body dies, of course, but not the spirit.  I believe we go on to another form of existence. And just as Jesus taught:  We find our true selves in the resurrection of the spirit.  We become one with the Spirit that is all.   

 So how did I get from garment bags to an unpacked suitcase from city to country to this?  I have rambled . . .  my thoughts are all over the place.  I guess what I am trying to say is,  It doesn’t matter that I am wondering where to live and what garment bags or suitcases to cart . . .  it is not frivolous – it is where I am at on my journey.  And as the monk suggested (cf. previous entry), I will do what presents itself; I will continue to live part-time in the country, until a buyer comes along, and no doubt, continue to cart garment bags and not completely unpack a suitcase.  My inability to travel lightly will one day provide the children with a laugh.  What am I saying?  It already has!   

“Guess what I’ve just done!”  I shouted to my youngest son as I came through the door. "I bought a car!" 

 I was so excited - I was shaking.  In fact, I shook all the way home from the car dealership. My son, a law student at the time, had come with me  to look at cars, and when we had narrowed it down to a couple of makes and models and I was ready to buy one, he abandoned me and I ended  up having to to buy it alone!

 I had no idea what I was doing – how could I?  I had never done anything like this before.  I had a car of my own; one my husband bought for me when the lease on the car he was driving expired and we were given the option to buy.  This time, however, I was looking for a car to drive in the country – something safe to drive on ice and snow – perhaps a 4wheel drive? 

 What did I know about cars . . .  I sat in the office wheeling and dealing and shaking.  The salesman  must have has  been smiling behind his sheet of options and prices.  I remember well, there were two of them sitting across the desk from me rattling off numbers, offering accessories and so on, while I, naive and ignorant,  sat nodding my head yes and no.  After much discussion – discussion?! . . .   With spinning head and trembling hands, I signed the purchase form for them to place the order.

 “So, what kind did you buy? He asked.  "And when do you pick it up?”  “They'll  call me when it's ready;  in a week or two, I think.”

 I could not believe that I had bought a car!  . . .  When I finally got control of myself and found the courage to take another look at the purchase order, I  saw the model that I had bought and I relaxed - both my son and I   agreed  that I had made the right choice.  

 It arrived sooner than expected and I had to go pick it up, which was another, not only exciting, but terrifying day.  I drove through heavy traffic in a new car I had not driven before and I was sure I'd have an accident, put a dent in it or scratch it.     

 When I related  all of this to friends at a dinner party a few days later, several of the women admitted they'd  had a similar experience.  What was it in those days that made buying a car so frightening?  Why was it so daunting and overwhelming?  Many of us had had babies, surgeries, sick children, moves  . . . and far more taxing things to deal with.   We all agreed, however, that it had been a positive experience;  one that was stimulating and exciting and one that showed we had the ability to make sound decisions; it also taught us to be more assertive and in so doing develop self-confidence.   

 I have bought several cars since then but now, have come full circle - I am ‘sans’ car, by choice.  We recently became a one-car family when I ‘sold’ my car to my granddaughter.  I am proud of  this decision – not only  did this provide her with a much needed means of transportation, getting down to one car is better for the environment and it definitely makes it easier on the pocket book!

 Owning a car is necessary for people who live outside the city, in small towns where public transportation is not offered and in the country, when one lives far away from things.  My husband now uses public transportation to go to his office and I  try to limit myself to shopping or driving to the country only.  Two cars are no longer necessary and certainly no longer important.  It is shocking to see what man has done to the environemnt; we can only hope it is not too late to turn things around.  Climate change is real and I am ashamed to think we have contributed to global warming, or as the saying goes,  left our own carbon footprint.  I would be happy to buy an electric car should  the need arise.   At my age, however,  I feel I may be spared that ordeal.  Wait a minue, what am I saying?  It could be fun, it would be exciting and  I might find myself wheeling and dealing again!

(for Alessia)

 “We’ll stop by at 10 tomorrow morning, and we’ll stay for lunch.” They said.

 Thrilled at the thought of a visit from my granddaughters, I chased around the next morning trying to put something together to feed them.  Slighly panic stricken, I asked my husband to pick up muffins and seedless grapes to go with the vegetable soup I'd prepared; cheese, apples and bananas then completed the meal. That ought to do it. I thought.

 I had no sooner organized it when they were at the door. “No need to have fussed, Nana – I brought my own food.”  Said my well-put-together healthy looking granddaughter, as she opened her bag of goodies. Meanwhile, her sister, more casual and much more relaxed, looked on with a smile.“What you have prepared is fine” She added, with love, a look of pride and a tiny hint of arrogance in her voice.

And that was when the lesson began . . .

 She outlined the nutritional value of each item I had put on the table, then went on to enumerate the important ingredients in the concoction she had prepared, describing the vitamin content and benefits to our bodies and the importance of protein and calcium in our diet.  I was very impressed and listened with great interest; her stew looked like healthy fare indeed, and it was almost with a guilty feeling that I ate my soup and bit into a muffin.

 A thousand years ago when my kids were little, Saturday mornings turned into a cooking frenzy:  I baked bread, pies and cakes; chocolate chip cookies were the domain of my daughter who baked and ate them  as they came out of the oven!  With impeccable timing, the boy next door would show up as I was pouring cake batter into the tins - just in time to lick the beaters and scrape the bowl! 

 It was indeed a busy day as I went from baking, to stirring soups, to preparing pot roasts, casseroles or meat loaves for the weekend; by Sunday night it had been completely eaten and there was nothing left!  This routine went on for years; my kids grew big and strong and I felt satisfied that I had done a good job.

 Until now. . . .

 We understand so much better today the importance of a healthy diet and exercise; my granddaughter’s demonstration and ideas were not lost on me but I have always said, and continue to say, let’s not go overboard, there should be moderation  in all things: In what you eat, in what you drink and how much you exercise.

 My granddaughter learned this lesson the hard way: wanting to lose weight, she starved herself, depriving her body of important nutrients, and exercised till she dropped.  She eventually went in search of books and information on the importance of good nutrition when, having collapsed, she found herself in front of her doctor suffering from malnutrition and anaemia. This is now her main topic of interest; she hopes to become a nutritionist in order to prevent others from making the same mistakes.

 Meanwhile I will no doubt continue to eat soup with perhaps too much salt and muffins with perhaps too much sugar but I am now more aware and will try my best to live up to my granddaughter’s lesson. Oh, and by the way, I did invite her to come by any time . . . while insisting she bring her own food of course.